Can I be real with you for a second? Some days, I feel like I’m failing at everything—working, parenting, cooking, remembering to breathe. And I know I’m not alone. Mom guilt hits all of us, whether we’re juggling work, school runs, sports practices, or just trying to get everyone fed before 7 p.m.
Research shows this feeling is very real: a 2019 study published in the Journal of Family Psychology found that 84% of mothers report experiencing guilt about not spending enough time with their children, and it can contribute to stress, anxiety, and burnout.
The good news? It doesn’t have to steal your joy. I’ve found a few ways to navigate mom guilt so it doesn’t weigh me down and I want to share them with you.
1. Reframe your expectations
Mom guilt thrives on perfectionism. In fact, research shows that perfectionism in mothers is linked to higher stress and lower wellbeing (Maternal & Child Health Journal, 2018).
Instead of aiming for “perfect,” notice what is working.
Maybe the laundry isn’t done, but your kids felt seen today. Maybe the house is messy, but you read that bedtime story. Those little moments are the real wins.
2. Celebrate small victories
Even tiny wins matter. Studies show that focusing on small achievements can reduce stress and increase feelings of competence (Positive Psychology Research, 2020).
Five focused minutes playing with your kid, jotting down a funny quote, or sending a quick encouraging text to a friend reminds you that you’re showing up, even when it doesn’t feel perfect.
3. Sneak in moments for yourself
Taking care of yourself is not selfish, it’s scientifically supported. Research in the Journal of Health Psychology (2017) found that mothers who prioritize even small acts of self-care report lower levels of stress and higher overall life satisfaction. Sip your coffee while it’s still hot, take a 10-minute walk, or go to dinner with a friend. You’ll feel refreshed, and your kids will see that it’s okay to take care of yourself.
4. Capture the messy, magical moments
What’s helped me most with mom guilt is using a planner to record life as it really is. I record our daily to-dos but right there, next to our schedules, I record the messy, funny, and heartwarming moments that make everyday life feel meaningful.
Studies show that journaling or documenting life events boosts mood and mindfulness (Journal of Experimental Psychology, 2014). When I flip back through my notes, I remember that I am doing enough, even when it doesn’t feel like it.
Mom guilt isn’t going anywhere but it doesn’t have to steal your days. Reframing expectations, celebrating small wins, giving yourself a little breathing room, and capturing the moments that matter help me move through it with a little more grace...and, frankly, even a little more joy.
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